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Up and Down, Back and Forth

Just a quick mix of things going on with me before the weekend starts.

My Valentine is a dear man. Good heart, but maybe a heart that is too eager to be part of a couple. I am becoming uncomfortable with how quickly he has begun to tell me he loves me. It may very well be that he is the one, but I firmly believe you cannot fall in love with someone in under a few months. You typically become intriqued, infatuated, in like, love and finally in love with someone. You need to see them in bad and good situations, be in those same situations and see how they react to you, etc. He's already hinted that I should find a job closer to his house and move in. Yeeeeeash! We'll have to talk this weekend and I'll have to set some ground rules. No more plotting our future or making sweeping declarations of love until we've been seeing each other 6 months.

I finally got around to buying a home blood pressure cuff. I decided to get a wrist one since it's smaller and easier to manage. So far my readings are scary in the opposite direction. All day today they ranged between 105 to 115 with a bottom number in the 70s or 80s. I think when I go back to work I'll have them use the upper arm medical cuff and then take my pressure again with the wrist cuff. If it's right that could explain the days when I'm feeling weak and shaky. Could be the medicine is working too good.

I indulged in a cute but not earth shatteringly beautiful dress at lunch time. The real shocker is that it has horizontal stripes. NOT a girls friend unless she's a size 0 or so. I am starting to really feel good about my shape despite the doctor and the fact that because of visiting valentine I've missed a couple of work outs. I will wear the dress at one of the group dinners I have tonight. I made a point of telling valentine that I'm not ready to go exclusive. That I need to see him walk the talk before I stop seeing for and seeing other people.

Oh, and it's spring so all my love interests past have been springing up like weeds. Unwelcome weeds in some cases. If it wasn't so predictable it would be interesting that the girl they discarded is now someone of interest to them. I'm not falling for that old routine again.

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lucyt said 3 months ago ...

LOL With the Spring raising its head/s....

You know exactly what you're doing and I agree, declerations like that are not comfortable so soon after meeting.

I'd love to see that dress, sometimes horizontal stripes can actually have an effect quite the opposite of so called style trends say.

Hope you have an interesting night tonight.

d6fer said 3 months ago ...

Low Bp, weak, and shakey could = anemia. have you been checked for it? My wife had it and they missed it.

wombat said 3 months ago ...

I am definitly NOT the typical case, but after years of some pretty rough stuff I am the one who innitiated a date with someone who was NOT my type and I was not even ready to be involved after a recent terrible break-up.

He showed up for the date with an overnight bag and never left. Five minutes into the date I am almost sick with the realization that this is who I've been looking for. He felt the same way. It was like, this is good I guess, but crap.....it's you? And where the hell have you been all this time?

This October will be our 12th anniversary.

I'm just saying, don't discount anything. You'll know it when it happens. It's not something you have to work for and think about too much. It just kind of happens, and sometimes it even sucks. You learn to work through the sucky parts.

One note: It still took some time to SAY "I love you."

The dress sounds fabulous and hope you had a nice time at your group dinner!

starchini said 3 months ago ...

Well I'm not one to give advice on proper timelines! Haha. We met in april, were professing our love in may, living together in june, pregnant in august and married the following august- so ya tehehe. Your plan seems a lot more methodical. I love that you are happy with your body, a nice bod looks great in almost anything, prolly even horizontal stripes! Thin stripes I hope- I get sting your boundaries anf taking it slow but just be careful not to let him take it the wrong way, this guy seems sensitive (thats good) and may take your independence as rejection. Have fun..new relationships are do great!

uniquely-learning said 3 months ago ...

lu - I'll see what I can do about the pic of the dress. It's a cute warm dark lavendar with horizontal tucks the entire length in an sheath cut. Very figure consious but not slutty.

d6 - I did the blood work for it and am on iron suppliments. I think the blood pressure meds are too strong.

wombie - I'm fighting myself so that I don't just settle. I don't have time for another mistake. He's being very patient with me.

star - I do tell him I'm interested in him. Even tell him why I can't jump in like him. I guess he's just a lot more open to things and very verbal.

hegemone said 3 months ago ...

I agree, a little too soon to be going with declarations of love and planning a future beyond maybe a couple weeks from now. I think it's a good idea to communicate with him about this, and hey, if he's 'the one' he'll be willing to listen, work out a compromise and wait if he really wants to be with you that badly. Awesome on the dress, and heck, that's half the battle, feeling confident in your skin no matter what condition it's in.

uniquely-learning said 3 months ago ...

hege - I'm actually spending part of this weekend with him. I've gotten him to stop saying those scary things. Now I'm just enjoying whatever it is without a whole lot of thought about what he'd like it to be.

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