I just found this awesome site, it's a genius idea. You and your partner fill out a survey about your fantasies on different computers so you can't see what the other one is saying they are into. Then, it shows you the fantasies that you share, and only the ones you share, so you can answer honestly. Too bad I don't have a boyfriend at the moment :/
Hmmm...it seems nice and safe if your confident your partner isn't being sneaky...If I wanted to know what my husbands real fantasies were I would just mark yes to everything and then I could be appauled that he wants a brown shower (and I thot Golden Showers were weird)...I answered all my questions and just as it was his turn I realized this...and he may not be so thrilled with me wanting to invite another man into the bedroom for a little DP.
Oh, I'll have to try this!