Monogamish

Hmmmmm food for thought. I suppose there is no cookie cutter answer for this kind of thing.

I agree there are more people in open relationships than the majority of people would think. I know a number of them. I consider myself polyamorous as well.

I would differentiate those that do this openly and those that don't though. The majority of the respondents on Savage Love were in open relationships (meaning doing it with their partner's knowledge and consent). The post that got you interested in this (I think) was about cheating (participating in something without your partner's consent and knowledge in something you think/know they would not agree with/approve of) and they're very different things.

Well considering that half of marriages end in divorce, financial and general incompatibility issues aside, I wonder what percentages of marriage end due to infidelity.

Could some of those marriages have been saved by an open relationship?

Some would argue that dilutes the traditional definition of marriage.

Traditional marriage is pretty awful. Wives were essentially their husbands property. I think people forget what traditional marriage was like.

I find it all very interesting...Im interested in the topic too. It's a scary almost repulsive thought for me to embrace that sort of relationship, but I also get it and can see the benefits and understand how its unique to each couple and what they are ok with and what they arnt. It could be as lose as "fuck whomever you want but no kissing", or "Just kissing."...So the options are endless and i understand how it could help couples...It'd be hard to erase all the pre programming and learn to be okay with it though...I can't even imagine the sort of rules I would implement...I think one would have to be that it be spontaneous and unplanned...I would be more likely to embrace that sort of lifestyle than my husband...idk though, we've never talked about such a thing so I supose I really dont know what he would think about it. Based on him as a whole though I would think he would be very against it...I really dont know where I stand on it...Like I said, I get it, but I dont know if I would be ok with it....It is really really interesting though...it does seem like a lot more people in society live like this today than ever before...I dont know that many people, and close to half are similarly like this.

sweetsoul, the post that got me interested in this was about a friend of mine whose husband told her it was OK if she slept with someone else. He told her this without her bringing up the subject which seemed odd to me.

Then someone started talking about polyamory and here we are :)

faerie thanks for clarifying. Definitely not complaining here. I think it's a good topic for discussion.