Celebrities provide great examples. Tiger Woods cheating on his model wife, Jesse James cheating on Sandra Bullock, and the list goes on and on.
I've never understood it.
Celebrities provide great examples. Tiger Woods cheating on his model wife, Jesse James cheating on Sandra Bullock, and the list goes on and on.
I've never understood it.
People cheat because their unhappy with who they're with. I think looks are just a coincidental in that equation.
Cheating usually involves sex. You may have steak at home, but it is not being served. In that case, a hamburger starts looking pretty goo.
cheating isn't a relationship, it's a way to get out of one.
I'll have to agree to disagree UI, on both counts, but I respect your right to your opinion.
uni, after 10 years, is it really only a way to get out of a relationship?
grape!!
""I don't think it's necessarily about looks, but how these women make these men feel maybe?""
no one makes you feel something (good or bad). you feel because of your own 'stuff' projected onto them. If you felt bored or whatever with your past girlfriends it is about your feelings and other factors rather than something they caused within you. It's sounds very much like you are unconsciously blaming them for your own cheating.
faerie - no, but many people find it to be easier than sitting down and having the talk.
phobes: Oh heavens no! I didn't want to give off the impression that I was blaming anyone! It's certainly not the case. If anything, the blame goes to me (the cheater) and the girl I cheated with (the ones who "let me" in their pants, as opposed to the ones who "let me" cheat) and not the ones I cheated on. I hope that clarifies things a bit.
Relationships are like a big garden, and they must be attended to....if one person is doing all the work, sooner or later they are going to give up and the weeds are going to take over.....if couples tend the garden together, it will grow and flourish.
uni, I think you're onto something. I'm guessing most are afraid to bring it up. I've never been married so I have no idea what it's like to be with someone for that long. It seems odd to me that they couldn't be honest after so many years!
I loved Uni's answer (cheating isn't a relationship, it's a way to get out of one) and I can also wonder why some WOMEN might cheat with someone not as attractive as their mate. I don't think it has as much to do with looks as it does with the relationship itself, opportunity, and the mood of the person at the time of that opportunity. Either you are "willing to cheat" or you are not. If so, then the opportunity will present itself if you are looking for it, and if you are in the mood for it, there you go. Repercussions later.
The guy/gal might not look anything like what you hoped for or expected, but that has nothing to do with that opportunity you led yourself into.
Ok--a man OR a woman should be able to resist cheating just because the other one is so "good-looking."
When they AREN'T as good looking as their mate, even, it's all that OTHER stuff that comes into play.
I don't think it's necessarily about looks, but how these women make these men feel maybe? I'm no expert on the subject, but in my checkered past, I have cheated on my girlfriends at the time with women not nearly as attractive as them. For the most part, I did it because they let me do it. I was young and had more hormones than brains at the time.