i'm a loner...

yes and no. I do need alone time, but I also need time with people. I work with a lot of people, so when I come home to no one, most of the time that's okay.

it can get lonely uni. but i know youre happy with your alone time... :-)

Not everybody can enjoy spending time with themselves, it's a good thing. I've grown to be happy when I'm alone now too. I used to go bonkers, looking for anyone to hang out with or just invite over when I didn't have anybody around ... now I treasure the time.

I need my alone time, my me time, to be a better friend and companion when I am with people. I enjoy both parts of my life. And there are so many conversations going on in my head that I'm never really alone! lol

Oh man I would just die for some alone time! The only time I get alone time is when I'm showering or taking a shit. Even then its never gauranteed. Many a time I have an audience for both.

Remember. To be alone is a state of being, whereas to be lonely is a state of mind.

I spend most of my time by myself. I go through days without talking to a single person. I'm okay with it. Quite good at it, actually. But then, I do feel the need to socialize once in a while and when I do, I meet up with my friends and have a blast. A mark of a good friendship is that you pick up right where you left off regardless of how much time has passed in between.

hegemone: i guess as we grow old we cherish the alone time more.

woman: same here! i can write a book with the conversations with my head.

starchini: oh girl you deserve an alone time! being a busy mom, you need to spend some time to just relax and be alone.

grape: thats so true! i am the same with my friends as wel... :-)

And you might!!

it would be a funny one though, ramblings of a paranoid queen!

Hmmmm, queenie not trying to be contrary, but I think you are not a loner, only a deep-thinking, sensitive person in need of solace from time to time.

You know we have many parallels in life. Belonging in a huge clan, having varied circles of friends, maintaining relationships with them, and pursuing goals & dreams in your own individual way can be hard to balance. There is a need to pull away every now and then.

As you already keenly absorved, individualism is not very pronounced or encouraged in our culture, thus getting easily labeled loner (even before reading that I feel you are neither, imo), when perhaps "sensitive soul", could be more appropriately used.

Oh, I always have great admiration for people, who can do, what is considered "normally" a group outing, "alone".

It is most of these times also that you get to meet people, you won't otherwise meet because you are in a group! Also, it's hard to people watch, which are writer's favourite past time when your thoughts are being drowned by babbling by people around you. lol

paper: you know your not the only person who told me im sensitive. my family thinks its a negative thing but others see the positive of it. so yeah i am sensitive. ive always been like that since im young. and yes i like eating in a restaurant alone or watch movie alone. i can concentrate more on what im doing if i do it alone... :)

I sometimes complain that I "feel so alone" but in truth, I think I secretly enjoy being alone. Maybe it has to do with my past and how I feel about myself, but at the same time, I can enjoy my own company because I can enjoy my own world inside my head. I do my best thinking, daydreaming, and planning when there's no one else wallking around up there, ha....

And I prefer going to a movie alone----and sitting away from other people, wrapped up in a warm jacket.

wombat: yeah it is nice to be alone sometimes. although i dont feel that way with you guys here... :-)

Well, it's nice to see you "right here" and responding, because most of the time lately I feel like I am "alone" on this website, just talking to my brain in my head. Then I see, "Conversations 1." Nice! I am NOT alone here.