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The Best Way To Stop a Tantrum Is To Ignore It

According to a new study.

"Green and Potegal found that sad sounds tended to occur throughout tantrums. Superimposed on them were sharp peaks of yelling and screaming: anger.

The trick in getting a tantrum to end as soon as possible, Potegal said, was to get the child past the peaks of anger. Once the child was past being angry, what was left was sadness, and sad children reach out for comfort. The quickest way past the anger, the scientists said, was to do nothing. Of course, that isn't easy for parents or caregivers to do."

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starchini said 5 months ago ...

Didn't listen to the clip, but I ignore Remi's tantrums and it works beautifully, when he begins having a melt down I tel him,"mommy, does not respond to terrorism". Then I ignore him...he screams bloody murder for about 5 seconds, then he just wants me to hold him. He knows my catch phrase now and sometimes as soon as he hears me say those words that's enough to writer him. Then he just pouts.

grapekoolaid said 5 months ago ...

Whatever happened to making a kid go outside and cut his/her own switch? The psychological terror of cutting your own instrument of punishment is enough for most kids to become either good or be good at it. Spare the rod and spoil the child. This is what led to helicopter parents and their precious snowflakes.

star: Never negotiate with terrorists. That's a good stance to have.

uniquely-learning said 5 months ago ...

I walked away. I even put my daughter out of the car on the side of the road (yes, I was a few feet away watching) until she was done with her fit.

d6fer said 5 months ago ...

My kids didn't do the tantrum thing much....if it were at home, they would just get a "whatever" out of me and get ignored...if it were in public however, they got the "melon squeeze" .....it was silent, yet very effective ;)

starchini said 5 months ago ...

Thanks grapey, we think its funny to say that to a toddler, he gets that cock eyed "huh?" expression...

D6fer, the melon squeeze...is this when you put your hand ontop of his head and give a firm yet safe squeeze? Cause Phil does this to Remi sometimes and I dont like it, not at all.

d6fer said 5 months ago ...

That's the one! Good for Phil!

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