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Adventures in Polyamory

In one of my other posts someone suggested that my friend's SO might be polyamorous. I'd never heard of this term before and when I looked it up online I found myself reading all kinds of crazy things. I found this one article thought provoking, and thought I'd hard.

"Polyamory is pretty rad, and for me it was worth the initial confrontation with uneasiness. It’s comfortable to live without jealousy and to be free to express to others how you really feel without thoughts of hurting anybody for being yourself, without trying to own the actions of another human being and without having your own actions bound by someone else’s sense of ownership over them."

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starchini said 6 months ago ...

Wow that article was impressive...Pretty ginormous concepts in there. You know what though, I never have believed that cheating on someone meant that you dont love your SO/spouse or arn't as committed to them as you were pre-cheat...I just always thought of it as disrespectful and careless...I really dont think im a fan of it, but I totally get how some people are...and like in your other post, I think the most important thing is that BOTH people in the relationship are polyamorous otherwise-duh-it just wont work...I dont think I ever could be for the simple fact of bodily fluids....Even if I came toterms with the whole Bathtub concept and still had a solid relationship, it would make me extremly nauseated to think of how many vaginas my husband poked around in or tasted...bleh...cause you know what they say, when you have sex with someone you have sex with everyone they had sex with...and im just not down with that sort of sharing...My husband's body is my property, as mine is his. So thats why polyamory isnt an option for muah, cause I do believe the bathtub thing...

reckoner said 6 months ago ...

I believe that our cultural aversion to this sort of thing is an evolutionary result of the health risks of multiple partners. We can minimize it in this day and age, but the risk is not gone.

I'm with star on this one.

sweetsoul said 6 months ago ...

I would disagree with his comment that polyamory is having sex with a lot of people. That's not the definition. Polyamory is loving more than one person...meant in a romantic way. As we all know, you can have sex and not love the person you're having sex with. Swingers have sex with lots of people. Some people in open relationships have sex with a lot of people, but having an open relationship may or may not include loving the people that you have sex with. There are all sorts of ways that polyamory can take place, but loving those involved is part of the definition.

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