You could count me as one of those bloggers, that has a hard time commenting because I simply do not want to say the wrong thing. Or my mind needs to write a lot of scattered thoughts first and puzzle them together before I can deliver a whole vivid picture.
I was reading, uni's most recent post and started commenting but felt my comment was way out of topic, so I decided to create a post saving my blatherings.
The post was about dating and relationships but my flow of thoughts went to the topic, "Finding Someone/Something, Even When One Is Not Looking".
I chose the title, Finding Neverland for this post because I love the character Peter Pan created by J.M. Barrie; I feel, I have always a childlike approach to how I view life. Well, I'll be turning 40 next year, and with all conviction, I feel I will never never never ever change the way I think or approach life.
Here is the beginning of my blatherings
At the risk of sounding stupid...
I'm one of those, who believe that you can find someone, or something even when you are not looking.
Of course the search/longing remains at the back of your mind, but by not putting it at the forefront of your mind, you relax your brain, your whole being, to get to that point when you find or stumble upon the person or the thing you are looking for - almost as an after thought, or a side effect.
As an example for lost stuff (this might sound inane, but that the heck!), - the most common being lost keys, the more you persist to find them the more they elude you. When you give up trying and then take the spare ones (which you did not want to take right away because it's a valuable spare, you do not want to lose), suddenly voilà, the lost key appears. (It's weird but this seems in a peculiar way to apply to relationships,too. Doesn't it?)
Perhaps, I'm extremely fatalist (not in the general sense but the sub-category of fatalism, which is determinism) in many areas of life, which is the reason I think we eventually get what we wish, and long for if all our actions have the thought of our search/longing behind them. Some life's experiences have proven this true, at least in my case.
At this point, I thought my ramblings were misplaced!
I would have continued on with more thoughts (my thoughts on relationships etc.) but I had to supervise the girls bedtime, and so I stopped. :)
Now off to shower, and perhaps I will come back to annotate this blog with more ramblings.
I agree with you here Paper. I've experienced it enough myself, between indeed the lost keys, or just in general where I give up trying so hard at something (not in the way of simply giving up, but by way of relaxing and just going with the flow for a while) and then poof, suddenly I realize 'Wow, the situation took care of itself!' or 'Oh, THAT's exactly what I had been hoping for!' I believe when you relax yourself, your mind, you become more open and you let things in, or you let things happen, that you might not originally allow. It's a way of dropping your guard without dropping it, if that makes sense. Then eventually, and hopefully not too late, you realize what is happening and enjoy it so much more. It can bring that warm smile and fluttery, happy feeling to a person. That's what I envisioned, or the point I was attempting to get across, that I may have failed at initially saying in my comment.