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The Good, The Bad & The Stubborn

I could just slap my husband right now, I really could. Oh I am so frustrated right now! How can that idiot tell me 'I don't see why you're so worried about me being laid off.' BECAUSE WE WON'T HAVE ANY FRICKEN' MONEY COMING IN FROM YOU YOU IDIOT! OK, there will be some, in the form of an unemployment check, but even those aren't all that much, certainly not like a full paycheck. He's also counting on his scrapping (cleaning, sorting, loading and taking in metal for money) to supplement. That's all good and fine, but last round, when he got laid off of the other job, he was supposed to do that and it never happened. So pardon me for wanting to work as hard as I can to put what I can into the savings account so I don't have to panic every time a bill comes in or every time we need something.

See, this argument started because he needs new tires for his car, which is fine, he really does ... but he also wanted to buy a brand new spare instead of just using the current tires for that. The current tires will do just fine if he needs ONE to get him from where he's broke down to home. Further, there are other resources to seek tires at a perhaps cheaper rate without it being cheaper quality. There was another thing he wanted to replace that he can actually get by with just oiling it (rear shock, don't ask me to explain the intricacies of the situation please) and then replace it later when he's NOT going to be laid off. We can't afford both the tires and the new shock, so he got told that and the argument ensued from there.

He knew he needed to replace that shock from day one of having the car. He's had a full year to do it, he could have done it 6 months ago when we had the financial stability to do it, but didn't for who knows what reason. He wants to wait til we've got a month and a half to two months before him being laid off? I don't think so. He made his bed, now he can lie in it ... or oil it ... or whatever. Yeah, we've decided to spend the rest of the night not speaking because we're just not going to agree on anything and he's just acting like a stubborn ass and I'm just frustrated as hell, so only absolutely necessary conversation will occur for the rest of the night.

Besides that though, or until that I should say, I've been in a happy glow after arriving home from work because I got some new books! I've got one more on the way, but I got the other three tonight. Under the Dome by Stephen King, A Bend in the Road by Nicholas Sparks, and then a first aid book for dogs and cats. I can't wait to get the first two started (one at a time, just to be able to stretch 'em out ... yeah I tend to be bad about reading two or three books at a time, not because I forget that I've started one, or get bored, but because I may not have access to the current one I was reading so I'll start another and once I've started I can't just stop). I've already been perusing the first aid book and I think it was quite a wise decision to get it and should have done it lots sooner. I'm gonna read up on the urinary issue section tonight, since we have two kitties in the house who've had problems with that.

Otherwise, that's all that's prominent in the brain for now so off to go play some Sims and then get a bath before bed. Have a good one everybody!

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uniquely-learning said over 1 year ago ...

Yeah, I don't get why he's so hot to replace the shock if some oiling it will do. The way I see it, if it will work without endangering the car or people it doesn't get fixed or replaced. But then my budget is usually super tight. Is it for sure he'll be laid off? I hope he gets to stay. I know well the pain of looking for work and living on pennies.

rollingc said over 1 year ago ...

I feel for you because I've been there. There's not enough money for this and not enough job security to make plans for that etc. One must learn (and it's not easy) to take life as it comes and well, to give thanks for what you got. Things have a way of working out if you're willing and don't give up hope.

paper said over 1 year ago ...

I hope writing helped you destress, dear Hegs.

I am hoping too that hubby get to keep his job.

Multi-reading is something I started doing when I became pregnant with the eldest. Before I can do marathon reading one after another. I actually miss reading Stephen King! I can say without exaggeration that I have not read him in more than a decade. I use to read him a lot between high-school and college.

simplyconfused said over 1 year ago ...

oh boys and there cars, boys and there cars grits teeth All I have to say about htat, good decision to hold off on contact till furthure notice, wouldn't turn out to great.. cop line.. flashlights.. dogs.. questions.. shudders Just Joking =p

As for the books, Love getting new books! =) These two books sound like a good choice... Speaking of Stephen King, in Dino's house there is bookshelves on the wall, and one side of them which is his dads stuff, is crammed, stuffed, not all the books fit, and they are basically all Stephen King!

hegemone said over 1 year ago ...

Uni - he's just looking for the lazy way out, because remembering to oil it, and then doing it, would take effort on his part and he'd be going along with someone else's idea and we just can't have that apparently. Luckily with the layoff it should just be for 2-4 months, depending on weather and landscaping needs, so at least we know he'll be going back to this job, bit we still have to make ends meet for those few months.

RC- oh, and I want to live in the moment and enjoy what's to be enjoyed, but while I'm doing that I want to set a little aside so I can keep doing that even while he's laid off and money is tight. At least in my mid, if we've taken precautions to prepare, then I can sleep peacefully.

Paper - as I mentioned to UnI, we know that he'll be going back to this job, but it's seasonal so for the worst of the winter months he won't be working unless his boss comes up with an odd job here and there, which could last from 2-4 months. I'd still like to prepare for those months though. So far as the reading, lol, I don't know what I'd do if I went that long without Stephen King, his books just captivate me and appeal to my style of imagination.

Simply - yeah, if we'd have pushed the issue and continued talking it could've gotten ugly, lol. That's sorta what my Stephen King shelf is like...crammed to almost overflowing. My goal is to have and read every single one of his books.

soaringraven said over 1 year ago ...

Actually faulty shocks are most certainly a high priority item. Bad shocks are bad shocks, simply put. I suppose however, if you think compromising your husbands safety on the roadways in favor of adding to your literary collection is a viable option that is your choice.

soaring

soaringraven said over 1 year ago ...

I must apologise for the tone I used in the above comment. I truly don't understand what has come over me of late.

soaring

hegemone said over 1 year ago ...

Soaring - that's part of the details I didn't explain above because it's complicated and I'm not sure I'd express it right, but indeed there is another way to deal with the shock at current to keep it working just fine, my uncle saw to that before selling us the car since he knew that at the time we may not be able to fix it(my husband was laid off when we got it, and only made that purchase then because his other vehicle had completely died and he had nothing to job hunt with)and besides that, as mentioned, he has had the opportunity to do that replacement for months and just now wants to do it. Additionally, the books were purchased on a gift card as a gift...which can't be converted to cash for a shock, else I would have. Hopefully that clears that up, and don't worry, we all have off moments.

wombat said over 1 year ago ...

Ok, I'm way late, but I did so want to check in and say hi and see what's up with you. Your situation sounds so familiar! When we have the money to do the extras nothing gets done until it might cause a pinch, and then it's so important! Hope things worked out. And one of the things that make me happy is a visit to the library, or a few new books on sale. Always something to look forward to in a good book, and I love the slick covers with all that "take me away" mode on the way!

toxicmoon said over 1 year ago ...

Oh I've totally been there with the hubby. Not to man bash but I've noticed that men "need" things at the most inconvenient times and when it's convenient, they put it off and say it can wait. I think they start freaking out that they will never have it at the last minute and throw a mini temper tantrum in an attempt to get it before it's gone...blah. Annoying.

hegemone said over 1 year ago ...

Wombie - Indeed it always seems to go that way, when we have the time/money/resources for whatever it just never happens and then at the last moment it becomes a 'hafta' situation. I'd really like to learn how to avoid that, lol. Indeed, there is something magical about new books, or even just 'new to me' books.

Toxic - I think I can agree with that, that they start to see the tunnel close and freak out and make life difficult, lol.

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